10/30/2017 – Well it finally happened. My father passed away this Saturday [10/28] at 1:00 a.m. in the morning. My Dad had been sick for a long time. This all stems from stepping on a dirty nail about 15 years ago; being a diabetic didn’t help either. The wound has been gotten so bad over the years that both his legs became gangrene. As it is with most families when a loved one finally passes, the emotions are there that they will be missed but at the same time, there is a ‘release’ as well. Having to see them sick and in pain every day is tough.
Emotionally for me, I loved my father very much. I just regret that we weren’t close as we should be. My father’s priorities towards his family were always misguided and never focussed. I wish we could have had those intimate moments as father and son but in truth, they never manifested. I did make one resolution. I decided that when the time came for me to have my own family, I would develop a relationship with my children that would better than what I had as a child. This is true for me today. I have a son and a daughter who I believe I have a great relationship with. They both are married now. I talk to them both every month. I have invested in their lives by taking interest and at times making them my number one priority.
Now, I’m in a new phase of my life. I have grandchildren. I will repeat the same cycle with them as best I can. My father was not a perfect father but he did his job. We had food, clothing, and shelter and at times, there were moments of compassion. My only regret toward him is, that he never really took the time to step back to realize just how blessed he was. I know he grew up poor in Alabama, being raised by a single parent. I know that he never graduated high school. I understand that he never really knew who his real dad was. All in all, coming out of all that sadness, he managed to stay married and raise 6 kids, retired from his job and become a grandfather and a great-grandfather of some awesome kids.
To me that is the true sadness of life for any individual; never taking the time to step back and enjoy your blessings. I love you Dad. I will continue to honor you with the greatness of my life.
04/01/2017 – For someone who really enjoys writing I should be horsewhipped. What concerns me is that time is moving so fast these days. Technology has made our lives so super busy. I will make an effort to blot out enough time to do what I really enjoy doing, which is writing. I have been working at Bank of America as a contractor since January of 2017. The experience was totally different this time. I had a manager that really challenged me in my work. My contract will be ending this Friday. I am growing weary of the constant job changes. I have two years to until I draw my Army retirement and then another 5 years to draw social security. I thought I would never feel this way but I am ready for it. I am still teaching fitness classes but that is also changing as well. I can feel that my body is growing older. I don’t have the energy to do every single move. I get my students started, and then I walk around and make corrections. This is how you’re supposed to teach but back in my earlier years, I did every exercise with my students. I can’t complain because as a 57-year-old man, I’m in pretty good shape. I’m worried as always about the job situation. I don’t want to wait 3 to4 months before I start work again. God hasn’t failed me yet. Even working at my age and remaining competitive is still a blessing within itself. We finally got the Target Fitness ministry off the ground. We are going into our 8th week and things are going pretty well. For the most part, I am growing stronger in my faith. For the first time, I really want to. God has to keep my insanity together to deal with this crazy world! My, kids and grandkids are all doing well. Keep me in your prayers this week about finding work.
06/07/2016 – I should be shot! It has been almost a year since I’ve made a post to this blog. Part of the reason is that I have been heavily involved in the Sergeant’s Majors Academy online. When I’m done with my homework, I don’t have any energy to write anything. I have to admit so much has changed in my life that it is really amazing.
For starters, we will be receiving a new grandchild into our family next month. It will be a girl! I am so excited about it. Both of my children are doing well with their own families. Wendy and I are doing great. We thank God so much for bringing us through this thing called ‘life’. Guess what? As I am writing this, I am attending annual training with the Reserves in Arkansas. Arkansas is a pretty state with a flat green countryside. I have about 11 more days here and counting.
Going away with the military is always tough. Ryan has been in Afghanistan for about 3 weeks now and he won’t return home until February! As for me, I miss Wendy and every time that I think it will easier, it doesn’t. Personally, my body is taking on new challenges as well. I can tell that my balance and equilibrium is off these days. I can’t run like I used to. I am also dealing with a sore shoulder and a weak right knee as well. I am well aware that I am in my mid-fifties and my body movements are slowing down.
I am so grateful to God for giving me the gift of movement. By no means is my life over. I will work with what I have until I can’t go anymore. I was just recently asked to join a group of fitness instructors called ‘Bad Boys of Funk’. I call us a ‘boy band’. It is an honor to have been asked to perform with these guys. I promise to move forward and stay current in my posts on this blog.
06/15/2015 – I am currently finishing my 2 weeks of annual training with the Army Reserves in Fort Drum, New York. I arrived on the 6th to a post that I have to admit that I have never been to. I am a native New Yorker but I never ventured this far upstate. The post is centered near a beautiful town called Watertown. I had the opportunity to go off of post a few times and I saw a few old rustic buildings that were still standing. There was also this old, weather-beaten church building that even had a clock tower embedded into the steeple. Although it is summer here, there is always a gentle breeze that continues to blow throughout the day. Someone told me that we were just 10 miles away from the Canadian border. Growing up I never had the chance to see this part of New York. There is a certain amount of romanticism to this area. The people appear to be laid back and hard working. Life just seems simple here. Nice.
04/27/2015 – It is very discouraging to see how the world is growing ever increasingly ‘anti’ God. Just about all of my favorite shows are secretly adding gay, bi-sexual and yes, transgender characters into their story lines. It is easy to see what their strategy is . This manipulation is not so much for our generation. It is being directed at the generations that are behind us. The objective is if these characters will become embedded in our culture [i.e. Big Bang Theory, TV show], that results will be that our younger generations will become ‘de-sensitized’ ! When you see so much of a particular image it is only natural in becoming ‘familiar’ with it. I am laughing because, these brilliant individuals think that they have found a great loophole to which they can launch their liberal agendas from. What these people have failed to understand is that these ‘agendas’ have been around since the beginning of mankind. I really find it humorous that people really think that God had no idea that there would be computers, technology or even issues like ‘gender identity’. Let’s look at what the Bible says about all of this.
It says in Jeremiah 17:5:
03/10/2015 – Wow, it’s been about 3 months since I blogged? Well for starters, I had a birthday on the 5th of March. As I get older birthdays are not that important to me as long as I can do a few things. The first is if I can have some time to myself to take myself dinner, see a movie and buy myself something. What I do value is receiving birthday cards from my children and grandchildren. I don’t care about the presents, just the cards! I’m 55 years old! I can’t believe it! I have to admit for the first time in my life I feel like I can really be who I am. What I mean is that I can make my choices and I really don’t care what the world thinks about it! I have always had the confidence. This is different in some way. We live our lives worrying about what people will say about us based on the externals. For the first time in my life, “I really don’t care!” I guess at my age I can really see that the world has really let me down. I did everything [or at least tried to] it told me to do. I played by the rules, wore the right clothes and did what it asked of me only to find out that it allowed others to cheat. Man, I wasted so many years! That’s OK, better late than never! What I do know is that I love God. God has been there with me all this time. He loved me enough to allow me to do what I thought I wanted to do. For this in my book is ‘true’ love. If you are reading this blog for the first time and you don’t know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, I high encourage you to make Him the Lord of your life now! Don’t waste anymore days, months or years of going through life’s boring and false sense of security motions! At my age, it is really sad to see how far we have come as a society to the point that we will let ‘anything’ go and NOT stand for anything that is good and right! The sad thing is if we don’t change our ways, it will only get worse not better. God will NOT be mocked. He will allow the circumstances to unfold to those who choose to live the rebellious life. I will continue to write as my heart encourages to me to do so. Like I said earlier, “I really don’t care!”
01/27/2015 – Feeling even better today. Again I want to say that it is a blessing to be able to ‘breathe’. It is amazing how the simple things that we take for granted. I met with an old friend today. She has moved back to the Charlotte area with her two kids. My hat goes out to her because making big decisions such as relocating can be scary sometimes. I don’t have anything profound to say here. I am just very, very, grateful of the life that God has given me. I can remember almost ‘cursing the gods’ complaining about my circumstances. Now when I look back at it, I can see that God has had a plan for my life. I couldn’t ask for the best wife. My wife is one of the most awesome people that I know. Besides being pretty, she is very smart and brings a balance to my life that I feel that I couldn’t have found anywhere else. Two people from totally two different cultures finding each other in this mess, amazes me! My children are the healing to my soul. My son is carbon copy of myself but with my wife’s brains. My daughter is the sensitive me but has my boldness to take on any challenge at any time! My daughter-in law is the awesome balance for my son. She demands his respect and she gets it. My son-in law is great match for my daughter because he buffers her emotionally. He isn’t easily stir by the issues of life. My grandsons are the new breed that I have a responsibility to help train and develop into the next set of greatness. It is in the quiet moments that all of this greatness overwhelms my heart. For that, I am eternally grateful to the Lord our God for taking me on such a journey.
01/26/2015 – I’m feeling better today. My morning personal training session had cancelled so I had time to go to the gym for myself today. I was so happy because I was able to run on the treadmill this morning. I 60/60 intervals. I ran for 60 seconds and then walked for 60 seconds. I have to admit the first two intervals felt as if my heart was going to give out. With each footstep I feel the fluid shaking around my heart. It eventually loosen up and it became more comfortable to run. This condition is going into it’s 4th week. I am not very patient when it comes to these things. Nonetheless I was able to do 10 rotations! I always get worried when it comes to my health. First reason of course is because I am a fitness professional. If I can’t move, it shuts down so much of my activities. Secondly, I have to keep myself healthy so that I can retire at my current rank. The truth is I could get a medical profile that would exempt me from any strenuous activity but with me it is a ‘pride’ thing. I want to go out on top of my game. I just thank God for the ability to move in general. All of us are faced with the issue of growing older. Some of us handle it better than others. I really can see God’s plan in the whole thing. God allows all of us to have our youth and drive. At some point he has to make room for the new generations that are ‘behind’ us. If our generation were strong all the time, the young people would have any initiative to progress. All of the ‘old people’ would be doing everything! Also I as I am getting older, I feel a sense of maturity that I really have come a long way that brings with it a sense of personal satisfaction. As an older man, I feel that I don’t have anything to prove. What I do feel is a sense of obligation to teach the younger generation and to encourage them to reach their goals. I used to tell my soldiers in my basic training when they would challenge me, “if I am still beating you at everything, then I have NOT done my job! It is your job to go further than me!”
01/23/2015 – Today the weather outside is very grey, wet and cold. Today I ran into an old friend on FB today. I was told that a few mutual friends of ours have passed on. I still can believe that I am myself am 54 years old! My body is 20 years behind so there I am fortunate to have some little bit of youth left in me. Since returning from Colorado 3 weeks ago, I contracted pneumonia due the attitude when I was there. Since I’ve been back I have been teaching and doing my training sessions. I can say today I am finally getting my lungs back and the coughing is at a bare minimum. People let me tell you, teaching with pneumonia is NO joke. All of my super powers were gone! I couldn’t even breathe! When I would finish my heart was pounding so bad I thought it was going to jump out of my chest! The mucus was horrible. I was forced by my wife to go to the doctor in which he gave me some antibiotics and was beginning to feel better. I know I should know better but if you know me, I just can’t sit down. I have to teach the Insanity program tomorrow. I should be okay but I still do have to minimize my moments. Also I have lost about 9 pounds as well in the process. It’s not what I recommend for weight loss but losing it is not going to kill me. I think this weekend I’m going to curl up with the wife, a fire and a good book and chill this weekend.
01/21/2015 – Well it’s a NEW year. I promise to do a better job this year of keeping this blog current. I’ve been doing some soul searching lately about the future for my fitness career. Most of you know that I have been teaching and training for about 23 years! I can’t thank God enough for the strength and health to be able to teach week in and week out. It is a personal goal of mine to stay healthy and in shape until they put me in the ground six feet under! The influence is so evident in my immediate family. My entire family is healthy and everyone has some form of fitness working in their lives. I want to continue my work of coaching, mentoring and training people to reach their personal best in fitness, career and most of all faith. I have thoroughly enjoyed my group exercise classes over the years. As time progressives on, I will transition myself away from these type of classes to more of hosting my own programs. This will in my opinion, will afford me the opportunity to present more robust programs that will be more effective. In no uncertain terms am I retiring or quitting the industry. I am posturing myself for the NEXT step of this journey. Along with this decision, I want to do more videos, podcasts and personal appearances. So get ready! Sgt. Roy by no means is going away. I just want to offer more and better products to you. If you have any questions or comments, please email with your remarks. Awesome!!
8/14/2014 – Last night a good friend of mine shared with me how his life has totally changed since giving his life to Jesus Christ. This friend of mine is very intellectual and has a life experience that would blow most people away. We met a year ago because I hired him to do some work for me. A friendship grew out of that connection. Throughout the year we would spend countless hours on the phone discussing the Word of God. We talked about everything from space aliens to world religion. I would listen as he would vent with such passion about his disappointments, frustrations and concerns. I could tell that he was no doubt searching for God. It wasn’t until last month that I told him that I was Man of God. We laughed about it. I could hear this man’s cry for peace! He reached out to me a few days ago and told me that he has been watching Joel Osteen’s message on television. Depending on who you are talking to these days, some people find Pastor Osteen ‘soft’ and not hard enough for these times. It says in Romans 10:15:
And how shall they preach unless they are sent? As it is written: “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel of peace,  Who bring glad tidings of good things!”
The objective of ALL preaching should be the Lord Jesus Christ. The fruit is the response that people give when they here the good news! Everyone has a style or form that they prefer. The bottom line is Jesus Christ crucified with God offering Him as our ‘free’ gift to salvation! I think about recently the great comedian Robin Williams. If only there was enough time for him to hear the gospel. Maybe, just maybe that would have been the pivotable point where it would have prevented him from taking his life. People understand, there is MORE to this life than working, paying bills, buying houses and cars. Life carries a lot more meaning when you know without a doubt that God knows that you are here!
8/7/2014 – Today I was handed some bad news today. I won’t bore you with it because I know that God will work it out for me. I guess what surprises me the most is that my resilience to it is about the same. My initial response is always ‘shock’. In this situation I felt things were going well for me. I didn’t even see this one coming. The next stage for me is ‘anger’. “Why me?” Yes, yours truly pulls the ‘self pity’ card every once in awhile. I can’t help but feeling that some people don’t even have to struggle at all for things. It just seems that things come easy for some people. The next phase is ‘release’. After I go through a plethora of emotions, I can feel a release. I start to see my situation as an opportunity for me to move to a new stage in my life. I have always taught my children to use their disappointments and failures in their lives as ‘life lessons’. There is so much information to gleen from in these experiences. Don’t worry about me. I will be alright.
8/6/2014 – I am sadden by what I see going on in the world today. My Christian brothers and sisters are being martyred everyday by radical muslims around the world. I have never have seen such an attack like this. Also the promotion of gay and lesbian rights in our society. From the Christian prospective it really doesn’t surprise me. What is just as surprising is why Christians are so confused on these issues. The Bible clearly states in Romans chapter 1 starting with verse 26 states:
For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature.
27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting;
29 being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers,
30 backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful;
32 who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them.
This is what the BIBLE teaches. I have to remember that God is STILL in control. I, nor does anyone else know the time or hour when the Lord Jesus will return. We do know that ‘evil’ will have it’s day in court one day. People without God will do what comes natural to their personal beliefs and desire. Every life that has been taken, ever sin that has been committed or executed, God knows about it. He will not let his word go in vane or diminish on the disobedience of mankind. Remember the world will choose it’s own path for truth. The author of ALL truth isn’t Oprah Windrey, Dr. Phil, Ellen Degeneres, Bill Maher or even President Obama. Take courage and keep the faith in knowing that our ‘God’ is God! Because when He RETURNS every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that ‘He is Lord’!
07/15/2014 – I saw a movie over the weekend titled ‘America’. People, I have to tell you that this is must see! In just two hours I have been corrected in my way of thinking of how this country was formed! What is equally important I have embraced a new found attitude of respect for this country. It is purely evident to me that we Americans don’t really know our history! I am also angered by the way our history has been presented to us over the years.
For example, I was taught that slavery in the south was purely done by white men who owned planatations. This is true, but what we weren’t told is that there were individuals like Anthony Johnson of Virginia, a black men who owned, bought and breeded slaves for living! In this movie the author and director Dinesh D’Souza an Indian/America did his homework and brought forth the facts.
The sad part about this is that most people probably will not go see this movie. My challenge to you is this. If you REALLY want to know about this country and how people and the liberal ways of thinking are trying to tear down our core values, then you need to go see this movie! I am not asking you to change your political views at the drop of a hat. I am asking you to go see what are the foundational aspects of this country and how we became what we are today! Give me a shout out, if you go see it.
07/10/2014 – Today is the day that I will calm myself down and mentally release myself from the responsibilities of the world and stop and say “thanks”. I will stop and give ‘thanks’ to God. I have been talking to a good friend of mine who has just recently made a decision to do just the same thing. This friend of mine is very intelligent and he can tell you anything concerning politics, religion or the issues of the day.
I am so happy for him because I have notice such a release in his demeanor. He seems to be at peace with himself. So I encourage all who read my blog to do the same. Backup and take time to give God ‘thanks’. Try it, you might like it.
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